Having adequate support is one of the keys to surviving a divorce. We are not only talking about professional support from lawyers and financial advisors but also emotional support from friends and relatives.
It’s absolutely essential to have trusted people in your life who will support you through the duration of your emotional rollercoaster and help keep you stay calm. If you’ve read our book you are already familiar with our favorite term for such a friend.
We like to call her the Mary Modmother. The Mary Modmother listens but doesn’t judge. She reassures you that you are not in fact crazy.
“Knowing at least one or two people still love me no matter how crazy I feel is important.”
Mary Modmothers are real lifesavers! Luckily there also other opportunities to soak in the much needed emotional support. There are a variety of divorce support groups available both online and in your community.
The trick is picking the right one for you.
Make sure that the people you surround yourself with are positive, non-judgmental and just generally pleasant to be around. If you are more comfortable around women, seek out women’s divorce support groups.
You can find a plethora of both online and community resources by just typing “divorce support groups” followed your geographic preference into your favorite search engine.
If you prefer to communicate virtually, seek out online support groups and forums such as the About.com Divorce Support Forum
Here are our practical action steps to finding the right support for you:
Gather together your own support group
Find positive people to surround yourself with. Your friends love you and want to help you, but they are not mind readers! Tell them what you need.
Stay away from negative people
You are already under enough stress. you don’t need vampires sucking away at your tattered emotions.
No one has enough time and energy to do it all. Your loved ones enjoy helping you- so let them!
Don’t expect everyone to understand
They just won’t. It’s not personal. Focus on surrounding yourself with positive, supportive people.
Talk to a therapist
They are professionals specially trained in helping people deal with major life changes.
Remember, you are in charge of you!